Since starting my illustrious blogging career, I have joined a lot of networking sites, the majority of which appear to be aimed at twentysomething/Generation Y professionals. And the communities quickly started driving me insane. I made a few wonderful friends, but the advice and the self-assuredness of the participants were driving me batty. I started to wonder if I was doing this whole life and career thing wrong, and started participating in conversations that made no sense to me. The advice and posts seemed to be pure link-baiting (aka intentionally controversial, under the guise of “irreverant”), and everyone comments on each other’s blogs, almost seemingly without variation. There is weird in-fighting and sniping remarks. (Okay, its like any other community).
But then I started wondering about my own life, and if this advice fits. And then I realized I was engaging in discussions about whether it’s okay to move back home, or if getting married young makes you inflexible. And I began to let other people’s fears and confusion seep into my psyche. I forgot that while I certainly don’t have it all figured out, I’m already established and secure and on a path.
And then I realized – this isn’t my world. I live in a world where I wonder about which retirement fund to contribute towards, and think about how I can take better care of my aging grandparents.
I don’t wonder about job-hopping, because I have been fortunate enough to find a job where I not only gain all sorts of varied, wonderful experience, but I love working where I do. People job-hop to find the job that I have.
I don’t need advice and articles about navigating early adult hood. In fact, I am qualified to offer advice about getting through that first part – I am on the other side.
I am sure my internet community is out there. I think that I am at a weird age and live in a weird part of the country (NYC). At 27, I think a lot of people my age are married, or are mommy-bloggers or something of that kind. And in New York, at least among my friends – that just isn’t the case. So, I love the idea of websites for young professionals, but I need something on a more “already figured that junk out” level. And “twentysomething” is too broad. Someone 1 or 2 years out of college needs different advice and feedback than someone who is more established.
I just changed my description on the “About” page from “mid-twenties’ to “late-twenties.” I never really had a quarterlife crisis (just a long series of difficult decisions and choices), but instead of trying to create one, I am just going to feel fortunate and forge on. Apparently, this means I am older than I thought, and I really couldn’t be happier.