Family Phone Ties
I am either a candidate for sainthood, or the looney-bin. Maybe both?
I am a pretty good kid (in my family, I will always be the kid, regardless of my advanced age). But it occurs to me that my family phone habits may be somewhat abnormal. I was just teasing my friend because even though she is an adult with a dog, a live-in boyfriend and an actual career, she has to call her parents every day when ever one of them is on vacation – just to let them know she is alive.
I thought that was a little excessive, but I know that not everyone has a family quite like my own. And the truth is, I probably contact my mom, either by phone 0r e-mail every other day or so. I probably see her about once a week, and I consider that pretty good.
Because my dad lives in Florida, most of our relationship has been over the phone and our contact varies depending on his depression-cycle. Sometimes its every day, and sometimes weeks go by without a peep. But, I also stay in touch with my step-mother and two younger sisters in Florida by phone. Everyone has their own phone line, and the contact schedule is kind of all over the place (but the little ones have discovered texting – which made me have to upgrade to an unlimited plan – it’s how I get all of my Jonas Brothers gossip.)
Then there is my younger sister in New York. That’s more sporadic. I say we have some sort of weekly contact – usually email, and an occasional social visit.
I call my grandparents in Florida about twice a week, although my goal is generally “every other day.”
The grandma in New York is … well, I have decided to aim for once a month.
Then sprinkle in a few calls to Frank’s parents, an occasional call to my Great Aunt Dot, birthday calls to my aunt, cousins and assorted family friends.
Most of these calls get made during my 10-15 minute walk to and from the subway every evening. Sometimes when I get home at night, and sometimes during the weekend. Is this crazy? Do I call my family more than most people? I never really considered myself a “family person” but I guess I am! Sometimes its obligation, sometimes its either the right thing to do, or touching base, and some of its just because my family just cracks me up.
Am I abnormal here? How old are you, and how often do you contact your folks?