The Near-Death of Respect (for your hosts).
I work in online marketing and social media. I’m all about Web 2.9 or whatever we’re calling it these days, and I’m the first one to pooh-pooh the Chicken Littles who complain that social media is destroying face-to-face communication, or making kids stupid, or many of the other things we dump on poor ‘lil Social Media. But if there’s one bad thing I will pin on Social Media, and Facebook (and it’s struggling predecessor in the event game – Evite) – it’s the decline of etiquette with respect to invitations.
Banish the Maybes
It started with cell phones. With mobile access, you no longer needed to nail down a specific time to hang out, or a location. You’ll just call and figure it out then. You can even be late, because you can let someone know on the run. That was the beginning. Then came E-vite and their infernal “maybe” response option. Now, you can invite someone to party by email, and they could not only respond in the affirmative or send regrets, but they could ignore it all together, or click “maybe.” It’s like with one fell swoop, people’s ability to commit to an event disintegrated. No longer could a host figure out how many kegs to buy, or who to expect. And if you spoke to someone in person, and asked if they planned on attending – usually? They were. They knew about it, it’s in their own calendar – but the idea of letting the host know? Skipped their mind.
I’m sure I’m going to get comments that say “Hey, if you wanted a formal headcount and party, what the hell are you doing inviting people on Facebook?” And, you’d be right. To a degree. Maybe the fault lies with the host/inviter – but I still think that if you are invited to an event, no matter how the invitation is issued, you could at least do the inviter the courtesy of letting them know if you will attend, in a respectable timeframe. (hint: an hour before the party is not respectable.)
Am I the only one this drives nuts? Are you guilty of the Maybe/Ignore non-response?